A short guide for the daughter in her forties who is planning the trip for everyone.
Almost always, it is the daughter in her forties who calls us. She is planning a trip for her parents, her partner, and two children who do not yet agree on anything — and she would like, just once, to be a guest at her own holiday.
The trick to three generations is not compromise; it is rhythm. We build days that breathe: a shared morning, then hours that split — the grandparents to a slow garden, the teenagers to something with a pulse — and a long table that pulls everyone back together at night.
Done well, no one feels managed and no one feels left out. And the daughter who called us gets to do the thing she planned the whole trip around: nothing at all, for an afternoon, while someone else holds the details.